Today a technician came to fix my hoist. The hoist is used to get me up from bed or a chair and to stand up straight which I really enjoy. so for want of a better word the ‘knobs’ were off balance and he was checking them! My daughter, who I call Kitty, was up on the hoist playing around as kids of four do. Technical guy and Kitty were interacting away with each other. I asked if he had kids all the while amazed at how he was really listening patiently as the words popped up on my eye gaze computer. Lots of people pass through our door sometimes unsure of what to expect which is normal I suppose. Last tecchie just conversed with our last Spanish au-pair and ran! So today ‘s guy in answer to my question about kids said ‘i was hoping you wouldn’t ask me that ‘. He went on to tell me that he had two boys but they had died in the past few years. My god I thought as I broke out in goose bumps! So much suffering in this world. He continued to explain that they had spent their lives in and out of hospital due to some unpronounceable disease. Both were special needs and enjoyed soccer and usual ‘boy’ things. One was nineteen and the other twenty when they passed on. I saw photographs on his phone. Lovely looking lads. Unsure of how to react to this man with sparkly blue eyes I said I was sorry about his loss and offered him a tea. When I told him that two years ago I was walking, talking and doing usual things it was then he broke down in tears maybe at the unfairness of it all. Two years ago maybe I wouldn’t have felt the pure and utter compassion I was feeling at that moment. He then fixed the hoist and left.
By the way readers, interestingly enough the ‘stand in ‘ from last Saturday morning rang in sick on Sunday because she had fallen the previous night. so the lovely girl was back again. As my late dad would say in particular situations to make us laugh, ‘funny innit ‘!